Presume competence, in me (Autism Bubble blog).
I’m tired of seeing great, loving parents, who never stop looking for ways they can do better for their kids being beaten down, and feeling like they can never be who, or what their children need.
We struggle to accept compliments, or encouragement as parents without feeling obligated to be offended on our child’s behalf, when usually all the person is saying is, “Hey, you’re doing a great job, keep it up” without meaning anything derogatory about our kids, or about autism for that matter. I say that all the time to my friends with neurotypical kids, because parenting is hard, and their response is usually ‘Thank you, I really needed to hear that today.”. So why is it so wrong for us to need and accept the same validation as parents from others?